We all know the classic statement of, “We need to talk.” But what if we made the statement, “It’s time to talk” equally universal? We usually think of February as the month for romantic love, but what about the love of listening to a friend in need and creating space without shame or judgment? Mental Health is what we need to talk about more often. There is an unprecedented crisis in the world and is it that of our mental well-being. We spoke to Dr. Teralyn Sellpsychotherapist and brain health expert, comments on this upcoming “Time to Talk Day” and the importance of opening up and speaking through struggles without fear or stigma on the subject.
The Importance of Being Honest When We Struggle
We humans love complacency because it’s the path of least resistance, but it does absolutely nothing for us in the end. When I learned to seek community and be truly vulnerable to what was happening to me was when I realized I was carrying a 100 pound weight in my heart and still thought it was normal to feel depressed and heavy in life. The first step, as cliché as it is, is to admit that you have an emotional issue that needs proper sorting out. It can be difficult, but it is also necessary. For years you have been “comfortable” in an uncomfortable situation, so much so that it is now your “normal”. To open up, you will have to become uncomfortable again. But this time, the discomfort is growth rather than suppression. The best part is that some therapies like EMDR don’t require you to tell the whole story, your brain will actually process the material whether you tell it or not.
In addition, there are several ways to process emotions. Some people like going to a therapist, others like hypnosis, EFT tapping and more. The world of mental health is certainly not linear and it is very important for you to find the most comfortable path to deal with the emotional discomfort you are feeling. Talking about emotional struggles is a great way to release them from your body, releasing another layer of your overall stress load. We know that the body clings to stressful emotions and events. Without processing these emotions, your stress response will continue to believe that he is under attack.